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The Art of Lying


(1) Lying is not telling the truth at a particular point in time. 
(2) Liars are those who almost always lie (often times for personal gain). 
(3) A "white lie" is not telling the truth about a different person (for that person's welfare).


(1) "Goodness" of anything is measured relative to one's self.
(2) What is good for one's self may not necessarily be good for another. If there are at least two good things for one's self and another, common sense dictates that one should choose the best for one's self.
(3) "Goodness of self" is about "sharing some of the best that you have with another".
(4) It takes (exactly) two to tango.


(1) Lying can be good.  (e.g. in matters of life and death)
(2) Making a few "white lies" does not make you a liar.
(3) Always making a "white lie" (at your personal expense) is not good.
(4) The "best white lie" that one can ever make in one's life has got to do something with sacrifice (e.g. self-denial).  Case in point:  You can make it appear that you are the worse choice because you want your best friend to get the "prize".
(5) Lying can make everyone happy.  Except perhaps, the one who lied.  (This is what is called an "optimal white lie".)
(6) Lying can make everyone unhappy.  Except, of course, the one who lied.  (Believe it or not, this can be a "white lie" - but can it be optimal?)
(7) Never lie to your tango partner (alluded to in Assumption #4).
(8) At one point in our lives or another, we would have made at least one lie ("white" or otherwise).
(9) Thus, nobody is a pure truth-teller.  That is, everybody is at least a "white liar".

The Signs
(1) Avoiding eye contact.
(2) Changing the topic.
(3) Nose rub, etc.
(4) Re-aligning eyeglasses.
(5) Looking at his/her watch while you are still talking.
(6) Pretending to get angry at you.
(7) Not answering a question directly.
(8) Giving an answer for a different (albeit related) question.
(9) Other [more] obvious reasons (e.g. running away while being chased)

There are infinitely many ways to lie, but there are also infinitely many ways to get caught at it.  So if you have to make a big decision someday, stick to the truth.  Because it is easier to show the truth than to hide a lie.



Arnie Dris said...

Comment [April 13 2011]: Of course, while it is easier to show the truth than to hide a lie, people almost always take the "easy way out" and find a convenient excuse (i.e. an "alibi") when caught lying. In the far out future, if the world were to become a better place to live in, then certainly, we better start practicing how to tell "white lies" with a poker face. Only then can there be further (and "more, vastly spacious") room for improvement towards having at least one pure truth-teller. That being said, the truth indeed hurts, but the truth shall set everyone free.

Arnie Dris said...

Comment #2 [April 13 2011]: It is human nature to get hurt when hearing truth, especially if it is something negative about the one hearing it (or, for that matter, if it's something negative about someone else, most specially the ones I/we/you love). Consequently, the best way to change people is to hurt them - NOT physically, of course, but emotionally (i.e. verbally - written reprimand is a bit of an issue for me). And people better start changing their perspectives by acknowledging truth as it is WHEN THEY HEAR/READ/SEE/REALIZE/FEEL/SENSE it - nothing more AND nothing less. This is easier said than done, but it is not impossible. So take that first step NOW.